Women who have nerdy interests are frequently less traditionally “feminine”.Some were tomboys growing up and take pride in being one of the guys.However, there are times when it's absolutely necessary to scare people off a little bit and to assert yourself.If you need to be mean and intimidating toward someone, then you have to have an attitude of "I don't care what anyone thinks," a healthy dose of confidence, and the words to back it up.There is no reason why you should try to force yourself to be someone you’re not in order to meet somebody else’s criteria.Now, that having been said: you want to consider toning down your behavior somewhat.Being told “You’re too intimidating” is incredibly aggravating to women.
Geek culture has a way of blurring the traditional lines of gender roles.
This isn’t to say that there’s something wrong with being high-energy or being a tomboy, just that there can be a fine line between being energetic and outgoing and being obnoxious.
Knowing When to Act Adopting the Attitude Taking Action Community Q&A Being mean and intimidating all the time can be exhausting and won't help you make any friends.
This is not to say that incredibly beautiful women will only go for the model-handsome mind you – look at Christina Hendricks are the one making the first move, they may feel as though they will be in constant competition with other men: ones with better jobs, fatter wallets, movie-star smiles, and abs you could do laundry on.
Your instinctive response may be to play down your looks, and while this can work – there’s a reason why the “beautiful-after-all” trope exists; everyone likes the idea of the librarian who’s secretly model-gorgeous – it’s ultimately putting the responsibility on you.